Never in my life have I been so upset that I actually wrote a letter of complaint, but tonight I did. Maybe I am just getting old. I went to a Show Choir performance tonight that was put on my our local high school. There were several people from my youth group either in the show choir or the choral group that was singing as well so I paid $3 to go and hear them sing.
I should know going in that these things are going to be rough. The city auditorium has a sound system that is one step above a cell phone call and these shows are never well produced (as someone who does a weekly “show” I can be very critical though so I try to keep an open mind) But tonight was much worse.
They had several students singing between the big choir songs. One of these was a guy who was trying to be funny, as he sang along with a track and “danced.” The song that he chose was all about sex, and his dance was more provocative than would be allowed on MTV. As I watched I was thinking that if I was sitting around with him and a few other guys I would probably laugh a bit and then tell him to cut it out. But he wasn’t sitting around with a bunch of guys. He was on stage at an event put on by the school that I paid money to see. My wife was sitting with me, and there were children all around me. It was inappropriate to say the least.
The thing is that this wasn’t even a time when maybe he and I have different ideas of what is appropriate. He went beyond appropriate in an attempt to be funny. But I’m not upset with the guy. He is a teenager, and teenagers are stupid. They don’t understand when certain things are appropriate and when they aren’t. But the teacher who put on the event should know better. It is her responsibility to make sure that what she puts on stage is suitable for all audiences.
So I wrote a letter to the principle of the school. I hate that I have become that guy, but I don’t want to think that I need to check the rating before I go to a school function. I thought as educators we were supposed to be helping students find ways to express themselves that are above their base desires. I thought we were supposed to be helping them to learn when certain actions are appropriate. When we become so worried about being their friends that we forget that we are supposed to be setting boundaries we are hurting them more than we are helping them.
I have to stop now, or I will go off on another rant.