Alright, getting a private area on Squarespace is going to be more complicated than I originally thought so as of right now that option is out. I may try to do some sort of email list/newsletter thing in the near future, but until then I will have to keep on editing myself. Just a word about that. I am not editing myself just because I am afraid that I might get into trouble, but because I don’t think it is fair to complain about people in the open like this just because I have a forum to do so. There are some things that I would like to say that I think would help other youth pastors, but that would be hurtful to the people who are involved. It isn’t fair to them.
Case in point: I don’t know when I became the point man for the “Let’s not air hump on stage at a school function” movement, but apparently people are bringing their own baggage here. I have tried to make several responses in the comments section, but I wanted to bring all of the relevant facts and general observations here in one place.
- I was never writing to criticize the performance by the Show Choir.
- I do think that the sound in the city auditorium is atrocious and I will have a hard time paying money for another event in that room until they get it fixed, but that in no way says that I have a problem with the Show Choir or all of their hard work.
- I wasn’t even writing to complain about the vulgar dance that was performed at the Show Choir concert. I was writing to say that somehow I had become someone who writes letters of complaint to people and I couldn’t believe that I had become that person.
- Please do not comment about me or who you feel I am from only reading one post on this blog.
- I really like dancing. In fact I actually have dances at my church. I even started a hip-hop style dance team at my church. I really like performance and live show. I know how hard they are to pull together. I just don’t appreciate simulated sex acts when I am at a school function.
- I like teenagers, but they make some real dumb decisions sometimes
- I think that teenagers are stupid (as are guys and most Christians–I fall into both of these camps) Those of you who actually read through this will see that my whole life is dealing with teenagers so a comment like “Teenagers are stupid” must mean something other that what you apparently took it to mean which is “I hate teenagers” (I do hate teenagers, but not because they are stupid.)(See there is that fancy wit again getting me in trouble)
- Teenagers don’t always make the best decisions so it is up to the adults in their lives to help them out.
- As adults we must be responsible for the things that we are in charge of. If I were in charge of the event on Friday and a student had deliberately tricked me into putting him on stage so he could push the boundaries as far as this student did I would have immediately stood up and apologized for his actions.
- As an adult I am the one responsible. If there is one thing that I have learned over the years it is that people will respond better if you take responsibility and not simply try to cover things up.
- In that vein: My name is Shane. I am the big guy who brings candy to the school every week because I love teenagers. My name is on everything that I say here.
- If you want to call me closed minded or question my motives then at least have the courage to sign your name. If you don’t want your name out where the world can see it then at least have the courage to send me an email and let me know who you are.
- This wasn’t about a difference of opinion about styles. This wasn’t about what the show choir did or about me not liking a particular dance. This was about a young man thinking it was funny to be vulgar. I can’t say whether or not his teacher knew about it before hand, but no matter what she is responsible. If she had immediately stood up and said, “Thank you for that performance, but I don’t think it was appropriate for the audience we have here tonight. I want to say that I am sorry to all of you who may have been offended” my post would have been applauding her for her courage. Instead here I am 3 days later trying to defend why I think school functions shouldn’t be PG-13. It is all just a bit ridiculous.
- Let me close by saying this. All of you who put time and effort into practicing your Show Choir routine should be reaping the praises of your audience. Instead, one student trying to be funny and show off took that away from you. Instead of complaining about the people who paid money to support you why not complain about the guy who took your show from you.