Hard Questions

It is getting harder and harder for me to use students in my ministry. Not because they don’t do a good job, but because I know more and more about their lifestyle away from church and I don’t want to hold them up as examples for my younger youth to follow.

So how do you guys deal with this? Here is an example in our youth led monthly worship time I want to have some students help to lead. If I find out that one of my seniors (or many of them for that matter) are involved in some lifestyle things that aren’t appropriate (drinking, sex, that sort of stuff) should I still put them up as leaders? I know that I am not perfect, and that I make mistakes, but the difference is that these guys don’t seem to see any hypocrisy in standing in front of their peers and leading worship and living the way that they want to live. So am I just encouraging this double life style when I put these students in front of their peers.

And I think the harder question is how do I deal with students that I don’t think should be leading? Do I call them in and have a discussion with them? Do I have them sign some sort of pledge? Have any of you dealt with situations like that and are willing to give me some insight? I don’t want to become a judgmental, legalistic sort of place and I want us to always be open place for sinners, but I also think that there is some way to not glorify those students who don’t seem to be striving to grow closer to God. Anyway, let me hear your ideas.

3 thoughts on “Hard Questions

  • March 14, 2005 at 7:52 PM
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    I think you’ve got the right idea, Shane. I’ve never been in the position you’re in, but I’m a worship leader at my church and one of the things that is emphasized to us is that we who are in a visible position of “upfront ministry” have a heavy responsibility to be living for Christ. Even at that age group – especially in that age group – they need to be aware that what they are doing is MINISTRY, not just performing. If they expect to glorify God by singing with the worship team or whatever, then they need to be at least trying to glorify God in their daily lives. I think you should have a talk with each of your student leaders about, well, leadership and what it entails. You are right, they don’t have to be perfect. None of us are perfect. But they should be trying to follow Christ, and repentant when they blow it instead of living however they want.

    Sorry, mini-soapbox here. Stepping down to see if anyone else wants a turn, especially someone who has dealt with something similar.

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  • March 16, 2005 at 5:23 PM
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    I am a youth leader at a church in Opelika, Al. My suggestion is that you have a private talk with your youth leaders about their behavior. Their position as youth leader is not nearly as important as their soul. You should explain to them that in being a youth leader they are expected to be an example to the other youth and since they are not being a Godly example you are going to remove from their position for a time period. They will probably be upset with you but they will get over it. You have to think about your other kids also. When you allow sin, you are saying it is ok. Good luck and I will be praying for you.

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  • March 23, 2005 at 3:37 PM
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    I have the same problem with my youth group. It seems to me that kids nowadays look at situations and life in general from a very different view than even i did as a kid. What I find as unacceptable behavior to them is ok. Also the fact that I dont know or see half the parents makes me question if they are ever there teaching the kids to begin with. Lets take clothing for example…In my day ya covered ya butt!! Now its ok not only to show the top of your crack but your belly, and half your chest. If I had gone out of the house in the mornings the way i see these girls come to church my momma would have had a massive heart attack! But for these girls its the popular thing and its acceptable to look this way and act that way. Where are the morals???

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