It is getting harder and harder for me to use students in my ministry. Not because they don’t do a good job, but because I know more and more about their lifestyle away from church and I don’t want to hold them up as examples for my younger youth to follow.
So how do you guys deal with this? Here is an example in our youth led monthly worship time I want to have some students help to lead. If I find out that one of my seniors (or many of them for that matter) are involved in some lifestyle things that aren’t appropriate (drinking, sex, that sort of stuff) should I still put them up as leaders? I know that I am not perfect, and that I make mistakes, but the difference is that these guys don’t seem to see any hypocrisy in standing in front of their peers and leading worship and living the way that they want to live. So am I just encouraging this double life style when I put these students in front of their peers.
And I think the harder question is how do I deal with students that I don’t think should be leading? Do I call them in and have a discussion with them? Do I have them sign some sort of pledge? Have any of you dealt with situations like that and are willing to give me some insight? I don’t want to become a judgmental, legalistic sort of place and I want us to always be open place for sinners, but I also think that there is some way to not glorify those students who don’t seem to be striving to grow closer to God. Anyway, let me hear your ideas.