There is a new thought rolling around in my head these days and it is about reaching out to parents. I am absolutely terrible at this. In my original confessions article that was one of the things that I admitted. I am horrendous at reaching out to parents. One of the reasons if I am honest is that if parents don’t care about the spiritual well being of their children enough to be in church I am mad at them.
Of course that is a terrible attitude to have. I can’t be mad at lost people for acting like lost people. But I digress. I have come to realize looking over the new face of my group that without integrating parents into the church along with teenagers your youth ministry can never be healthy. Teenagers who are involved in church without their parents will eventually find reasons for not coming. Many teenagers see that their parents don’t come to church so as they get older church is one more thing that they have to grow out of and coming to church is one more thing that they think is for "little kids."
I know in our group as students have gotten their license and don’t need to come to church to see friends anymore, that the ones who’s parents don’t attend have a much higher drop out rate than those who do, even if they student was a growing and fruit bearing Christian.
So for the first time, and I know I am coming to this late, and I should have seen it before, but for the first time I have made the connection between parental evangelism and youth group growth. I have always known that bringing in parents will help the church to grow, but a light has gone off in my head and I finally see that parental evangelism will cause the youth ministry to grow as well.
And let’s face it youth pastors, that is why we do anything new because we want our groups to grow.